Emotional healing from traumatic births

by | Aug 27, 2012 | Planning your vbac, VBAC | 1 comment

When I posted this on Facebook, I was surprise how many women felt alone with their emotions. I decided to share this via the website so women will know they are not alone on this journey.


Here at VBAC Facts, I focus primarily on facts, research, and logic. But as any mom preparing for birth can tell you, information is only part of the equation. Knowing the facts is important, but it’s not the whole enchilada.

Many women are carrying the emotional baggage of their traumatic vaginal or cesarean births. How we feel about our past pregnancies and deliveries influences our outlook for our future labors. This unprocessed anger and disappointment can negatively impact how future births unfold.

I interact with post-cesarean women on a daily basis and can personally attest to how important this work is. Women often feel betrayed and lied to by the medical establishment while simultaneously wondering if their bodies are broken and incapable of birth. Without trust in our care providers and confidence in our bodies, how can we birth?

At the 2012 VBAC Summit, Christy Farr of Seeds and Weeds Coaching offered practical and easy first steps for identifying and rectifying these emotional roadblocks.

For women who care to dig a little deeper, working within a compassionate, direct, and supportive framework like Christy’s can help free them from their past and pave the way to an unhindered birth.

Connect with Christy via her website or Facebook.

Get a flavor for how Christy communicates via her session, “Towards Healing: Unpacking the Baggage of a Traumatic Birth” which is available for download.

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  1. As a mom of 5 children, 3 natural births and a set of 2 month premature twins (twin A was breech, but only 2lbs 10 oz) delivered by c-section due to prom of baby A. The main thing my c-section did for me was scare me enough that in my 5th pregnancy for my 6th child I contemplated every option. I Wentworth to my ob/gyn and the first thing I was told at 10 weeks pregnant, we will make you an appointment for your c-section. I ran out of there so fast you would have thought my pants were on fire. I went home and researched vbac. We have places that do it, just not with high success rates. Dr’s didn’t want to answer my questions by phone or mail, I needed to make an appointment. I seriously considered abortion. I reached out to friends and family for Dr. recommendations, came up empty. Not trusting the medical world I was going to just stay home and deliver by myself if need be. In a final effort to have a safe vbac I visited midwives many having vbacs themselves. Still waiting on the birth of this baby, the only I can think of is how the doctors used scare tactics for my c-section that left me scarred mentally as well as physically enough to go to desperate lengths to not have a repeat. This is not how having a baby should be.


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Jen Kamel

Jen Kamel is the founder of VBAC Facts, an educational, training and consulting firm. As a nationally recognized VBAC strategist and consumer advocate, she has been invited to present Grand Rounds at hospitals, served as an expert witness in a legal proceeding, and has traveled the country educating hundreds of professionals and highly motivated parents. She speaks at national conferences and has worked as a legislative consultant in various states focusing on midwifery legislation and regulations. She has testified multiple times in front of the California Medical Board and legislative committees on the importance of VBAC access and is a board member for the California Association of Midwives.

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